One Happy Man… Many Hopeful Women.
Not Beginning Another regretful mistake men make is not committing to a visit. They think about coming to Colombia and meeting beautiful Latin women. They wonder, could it really be true that many attractive women would be interested in meeting me. They ask me and others a lot of questions. They visit our website often. But they can’t muster the muscle to actually go. These men will never know what could have been. It stays a dream instead of a dream come true. Understand, it is very normal to have hesitancy prior to such an undertaking. Our introduction service is unique and unusual. The familiarity is not there for immediate comfort and acceptance. You’re not accustomed to having an outsider find you a wife. You’re not use to traveling to non-touristy destinations. You’re not a rock star with groupies, experienced in having an audience of attractive women. And you’re not comfortable with a service from an industry (international matchmaking) that, rightfully so, does not have a good reputation. Damn right you should be cautious! Even after careful research and contemplation it is normal to feel nervous. Understand that this feeling won’t change until you’re off the plane and meeting your first Colombian woman. That first smile will be your point of no regret. If you can dream about it, you can begin the process of finding a foreign bride. Furthermore, we conduct this process in an environment that supports and cares for you every step of the way. Writing Before Meeting While it would seem writing to foreign women prior to your visit would be a good thing, it carries unexpected negatives. We have had clients write women months in advance of visiting and within one hour of meeting these women, for whom they had such high hopes, realize she’s not the one. A two hour date can tell you more about your attraction and connection to a woman than months of writing. For the men who chose to write to their top three or four selections prior to using our Personal Introductions Romance Tour Service, where they will meet many Latin women, there has been no empirical benefit in doing so. It is very rare for such men to actually marry the women they wrote. They marry women they didn’t write. The top selections men make based on photos and a profile is very different than the selections men make after interacting with the women. Another potential obstacle to writing a few women prior to meeting many women is that it can create an emotional bias towards those women you are writing, which prevents you from objectively and attentively comparing the attributes of every woman you meet equally. For example, if you know girl A from writing and meet girl B, you may stick with girl A due to your familiarity with her. But if you did not know either girl A or B you might have gone for girl B, because no woman had a familiarity advantage. One of the reasons for ending our correspondence service was due to the very low results men would get from traditional writing and meeting one or two women. The very best results come from men who charge forward and meet many women. The worst results come from men who fall in love with or have high expectations for a woman they have not even met.
Ignoring the Numbers. The number one mistake men make in looking for a foreign bride is meeting too few women. In your home country you would meet and date one woman at a time. But to travel thousands of miles, spend thousands of dollars, and use your limited vacation time to meet one foreign woman is a plot better suited for a fictional romantic movie. It is not a successful route for finding a foreign bride. Over ninety percent of the men who travel to a foreign country to meet one potential foreign partner never marry. Ask yourself, did you marry the last woman you went out with? Did you marry the one before that, or the one before that? Probably not, yet for some reason guys think by going to a foreign country those poor odds of meeting your wife on your next date disappears. You are asking to fail by searching for a foreign bride and dating her in the same manner as you would women from you home country. Your approach must change. The women are different in behavior from what you are use to, their culture is unfamiliar to you, the surroundings are new and outside your element of control, your investment in time and money is much larger, and your window of opportunity during a short visit is smaller. The risk in planning to meet only one Colombian woman is high. I have had clients spend months writing to one Latin woman only to realize before they can unpack their suitcase that she is not the woman for them. I have had many men call us or come to our door with sad stories of how they were suppose to meet a woman they were communicating with that never showed up at the airport, or the woman they met was not right for them, or had a boyfriend, or was not spending enough time with them, and they were now in a strange city not knowing what to do. They did the worst thing possible in international dating: visit one foreign woman. It is basic common sense that the more women you meet the greater your odds of success in finding a foreign bride. It is a fact that decision-making improves when you expose yourself to more options (in this case foreign women), and what’s a more important decision than selecting a wife. We work on providing you as many options as possible in the shortest amount of time so you can spend the majority of your stay dating your number one choice. Don’t bind yourself to the past conditions of domestic dating and limit your options when you have the opportunity to meet many foreign women, one who may be a wonderful and unexpected surprise that would not have made your list of one. We Make Happen What Can´t Happen Alone.